Everybody seems to have an idea of what you are supposed to be doing or not doing at every phase and for every aspect of life.
Parents, mentors, systems and cultures..all tend to impose a line of action, what they think is best for you at that time, but what will you do if they contradict one another, what will you do if it contradicts your vision?
If no other thing, “wisdom-overload” seem to plague this age. Everywhere you look there is an advise, a suggestion, a correction…but we both know if you are to go by every advice, you will be like a man without direction, everywhere, doing everything.
The words of Lysa Terkuerst i’ve found to be a sound advice, a solution for whoever is caught in the web of people’s opinion.
“Don’t allow the unrealistic demands of others to march freely into your life“
To be sincere, some people’s sound advice is biased by their personal interest, dislikes and fears, to others, they just want to see you live their unrealized dreams.
Here are two contributions from my friends on this quote.
Obidiegwu Chukwuebuka : I think it is backed by the verse in the Bible that says “guard your heart…” . So if you want to live your life you must have a personal revelation but the revelation can be understood from other people’s experience. And not just on other people’s expressions. You should always use the Bible as a background or foundation for our belief not other people’s expectations.
Ajayi Adebayo: Most times, we are controlled by what we hear or see. I believe the message from this post implies that we shouldn’t allow other peoples want or outrageous desires to be our major focus of demand. This is what mostly lead to depression and low self esteem in people. I believe each and everyone of us should chart our course as directed by God. Having mentors and friends is good but they are not God.
I’ll love to entertain other perspectives on dealing with people’s unrealistic expectations. Kindly contribute via a comment. U might be saving a life as a lot of youths are facing this situation.
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For me a strong personal objective n drive is wat is required wat others prescribe should only b used as measures to get to ur destination faster bt nt chart our course. Take for instance a compass, it only shows directions it’s left for whoever is navigating to decide where to n nt go. So d onus is upon us personally n wit God’s guidance.
Hmm…very true, deep insight sir. Thanks for sharing
Most times we rum with other people’s clock, we want their dreams,desires and hopes. We fail to have our own plan and purpose, we fail to know the truth that all individuals have their own individual purpose, passion, gifts, talents. And when we run the race in life we feel its a competition, so we can show off or meet the society’s or family standard.
I say take it a step at a time, dreams your dreams, have your own vision, make your own plans, set your own goals and achieve it not for any one but for you. Don’t rush, just take it one step at a time
Great advice Rachael, I really appreciate your contribution. So true “We fail to have our own plans and purpose sometime”, thereby allowing us to be gullible to other people’s opinions .