It is difficult to retrace one’s steps after messing up big time. That’s why I have come up with my ” 6 Life Lessons to Learn From After Messing Up.”
“Messing up” here isn’t necessarily referring to sinning against God or backsliding. It refers to when we knowingly make mistakes and beat ourselves up for it, or dwell in regret because of past mistakes.
Before I provide these life lessons , I want you to note the following upfront:
- As it concerns messing up, you need to realise that nothing can be done about it. The deed has been done. It can’t be undone. As much as you want it to just be a bad dream that you can wake up from, it’s not and you won’t.
- After this, you need to know that constantly reminding yourself about the mistake would do more harm than good. You would only end up weighing yourself down. I’m not saying that you should deny your “messing up”, I’m just saying meditating on it is only a waste of time.
Now, in no particular order of priority, here are my 6 life lessons to learn from after messing up:
1. Focus on doing better.
It’s good that you realised your mistakes but focus on doing better next time. Seek to make things different, and if your actions affected people, make amends with them. Apologise and seek to restore the relationship. Bear in mind that you cannot determine how they will react or if they will forgive you.
2. Recognise your humanity.
I want you to know that you’re not infallible. There was a time I made a terrible mistake and keep beating myself up about it. Eventually, I had to remind myself that I’m human and I can make mistakes. The truth is ANYBODY make mistakes! Even your faves make mistakes, maybe different circumstances and consequences, but they sure do.It's good that you realised your mistakes but focus on doing better next time. Click To Tweet
3. Remind yourself of God’s love.
God loves you. He wants the best for you. Even when you sin or make mistakes, He loves you regardless. Don’t dwell in condemnation, receive His forgiveness. Remind yourself of this love whenever you mess up.
4. You have self-control.
Every child of God knows that he/she has self-control by virtue of the Holy Spirit living inside of them. Self-control (Galatians 5:22) is a fruit of this Spirit. All this is to say that you can stop messing up. With the help of the Holy Spirit, it’s possible.God loves you. He wants the best for you. Even when you sin or make mistakes, He loves you regardless. Don't dwell in condemnation, receive His forgiveness and do better next time. Click To Tweet
5. Forgive Yourself.
We might be so used to hearing about forgiving other people and not realising we would need to forgive ourselves too sometimes. I have learnt to extend grace to myself when I mess up. You can do the same. It helps.
6. Talk to trusted people.
Sometimes, we keep messing up because we don’t know better. It helps to talk to trusted people. They might be able to help us do better either by giving us a better perspective or by just listening. Don’t bottle your problems up and stay isolated from everyone that can help and cares.You don't have to let some past mistakes determine the rest of your life or make you slip into depression. You can always trust God to make everything work for your good. Click To Tweet
Many times, we limit God in our minds when we think our mistakes will forever determine the outcomes of our lives. Of course, a continual messing up will not do us any good. However, if we apply the above life lessons, then I can assure you that your life will not end because of a string of mistakes.
You don’t have to let some past mistakes determine the rest of your life or make you slip into depression. Trust God to make everything work for your good.
You might also find this article helpful: Forgiveness – a ‘Doing’ Word