“Argh! God, this pain is too much. I regret everything!” Moyo cried out with pain in her heart as she remembered her past. Although everyone keeps saying, “forget it and move on,” it’s been so difficult for her. She wonders if there are ways to get over past mistakes.
Like Moyo, many of us might have had one or more bitter experiences in the past. And no matter how much we try, it is hard to forget them. It could be heartbreak, the death of a loved one, or a regrettable decision. I know how hard it is because I’ve been through it. It’s not easy. Yet, I want you to know that there are ways to get over past mistakes.
Without further ado, let’s discuss 7 ways to get over past mistakes:
1. Accept it as it is
Accepting what has happened as it is, is the first step to getting over past mistakes or decisions. It is saying to yourself, “It is what it is. How can I get past it?”
I understand how hard this can be, but mistakes are inevitable in life. Accepting things as they are bring us a sense of peace and calmness.Many of us might have had one or more bitter experiences in the past. And no matter how much we try, it is hard to forget them. Yet, we can always move on. Click To Tweet
2. Talk to God about it
Hold on! Don’t skip this. When we are sad, most of us find it hard to focus or even pray. We feel God is far away. But saying a short prayer frequently or praying with someone can encourage and calm us. Of course, God already knows our problems but He still wants us to talk to Him about them.
Talking to Him brings us peace. Philippians 4:7 says “And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
God’s peace is not the exact definition of peace that the world understands. It surpasses human understanding because it’s alive even in the presence of trouble.
3. Talk about it
Talking about how you feel about the issue is one of the essential steps to getting over an awful past. Worrying about it may lead to anxiety, depression, headache and high blood pressure. So, it is helpful to talk about it with a counselor, mentor, or friend you can trust.Taking it easy with yourself is another way of getting over an awful past. If criticizing yourself is the first step you take when you're hurt, then you're only complicating the issue. Click To Tweet
4. Create distance
Create distance between yourself and the people, places, and things that remind you of the past. Doing so gives you the opportunity to experience something positive and different. It helps you to get over that awful experience.
5. Be gentle with yourself
Taking it easy with yourself is another way of getting over an awful past. If criticizing yourself is the first step you take when you’re hurt, then you’re only complicating the issue. Instead, show yourself some kindness and compassion. Be realistic about your faults and your strengths as well. Mistakes are inevitable. Inspite of this, we can choose to treat ourselves kindly and lovingly when we make them.God already knows our problems but He still wants us to talk to Him about them. Click To Tweet
6. Forgive others and yourself
Forgiveness is not always easy, but helps us hurt less, experience less anger, feel less stressed, and suffer less depression.
It’s one thing to forgive but it’s another thing to forgive oneself. However, the decision to forgive others often starts with forgiving yourself. You may struggle with forgiving others if you haven’t forgiven yourself.
No one is perfect. Also, it is human to make mistakes. Therefore, focus on the lessons learned (from mistakes) and try to move on without any anger or resentment in your heart.
7. Surround yourself with people who love you
Finally, even if you follow all the steps above, getting over an awful past may be harder without surrounding yourself with the right people. Thus, one of the crucial steps to get over a horrible past is by surrounding yourself with the people who love you. For them, your mental health is a priority, and they will make your healing process faster.No one is perfect. Also, it is human to make mistakes. Therefore, focus on the lessons learned and try to move on without any anger or resentment in your heart. Click To Tweet
I hope the above helps you get over past mistakes and experiences. Please, feel free to drop questions, comments, or personal actions that have helped you in the comment box.
You can also read” Reasons to Forgive Others: 5 to consider today” and “Ways to Overcome Depression: 4 Practical Ways“.
Written by Olajumoke Fakuade
Love point 1. As much as we want it to be a bad dream we can just wake up from, it’s not, and well.. we won’t. It is what it is.
Mistakes are inevitable, so don’t kill yourself when you make one.