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I lost my only brother to cancer when he was just 19 years old. He was given a royal burial and a solemn burial ceremony. Even though it was carried out unannounced and at a very remote location on the outskirts of town the day after his death, the burial recorded a massive (crowded) turnout. A book is about to be published in his name and about his life under the umbrella of the Nigeria Baptist Convention.

I’ve lost two friends in the last 2 weeks to ghastly motor accidents- a guy and a lady of my age range, people I loved and respected for their rare character and disposition to life. People you simply tag “too good to die”. And this has left me with a lot of thoughts.
We all know that life is too short, and tomorrow is not promised to anyone. The slogan is everywhere, even on bumper stickers-

“Live your lives a day at a time”

But my concern is – what is worth living for? What cause is worth living for?
What floods our age now is the pursuit to make an impact here on earth, leave your print on the sands of time, be named among the “Who is Who” of the universe, win a Noble Laurel, an Oscar or a Grammy and prove to the J P Morgans’ and Bill Gates’ that they were but small boys. After all that what’s next?
The aim of this post, in summary, is this –

“The most important thing about living is not leaving an imprint/impact here on earth, BUT WHAT YOU’RE ABLE TO DO IN THE LIGHT OF ETERNITY.”

I don’t think the above-stated truth can be debated, not because it’s my blog, but because it’s just the truth.

“For what does it profit a man to gain the whole world, and forfeit his life [in the eternal kingdom of God]? (Mark 8:36)”

I don’t think any greater purpose beats that.
I was confronted with a question regarding that conviction on what our time on earth should be lived on. A friend asked if it should “mutually exclusive“. I want to assume he was asking if he could pursue two different goals independent of each other without one affecting the other.

“Can I crave for a mark on earth in whatever field and at the same time live in the light of eternity?”

I am not saying we should give up our personal ambitions for a spiritual cause. Not everyone will be a pastor, or go the mission field. Some must be involved in secular jobs; some must win the Grammys, Oscars and the likes. However, regardless of what sector we are involved in, whatever we do must have eternal relevance.
Your primary assignment of being here must not suffer. You must make sure all you are doing is laying up for yourself treasures in heaven and not here on earth. This will have great influence on how you carry out your daily business and for what reason you do them.
You must realize that as a person, you are a pilgrim here on earth, with a primary assignment of being an ambassador of the kingdom from which you came.
It is foolhardy to build up an empire in a place where you will not dwell in forever. It’s only wise to focus on that which is permanent and one way to do that is by focusing on your primary assignment- the reason why you were created…
My brother had the testimony that he lived for God, he lived a selfless life. It didn’t occur to me then, but it’s clear now. He lived like he knew he had a short time here on earth. Everyone that knew him, even for just a month or less had something positive to say about how he impacted their lives.
I’ve been having a rethink about the idea of the longevity of life, most people in the new testament, most people we celebrate didn’t have the chance to live so long. I was shocked when I learnt that Mozart died at 35. And death is not really the cessation of life, it’s just a change of state, place and form.

What if you don’t live up to that age? If you don’t get married? If you never receive that award or attain that height? Will that mean you failed to live? Life is more than all that. 

So live now, and live right.

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  1. What you wrote is so inspirational and absolutely true and I’m sorry about your brother and friends much respect xx

    1. Thank you so much. So happy to see your comment.

  2. Hmm… this blog really touches me. I think this passage matt 6:33 “Seek ye first the kingdom of God and every oda thing wld b added unto u” paraphrased. I didnt get to understand dis fully till i lost my dad. My dad had a testimony from d overseer of the church as ” the servany of the church” He lived for God and for d church of God.. Wen u live for God d reaches of d wrld bcomes urs. It wont b in how many houses bt in hw many souls came to christ thru u dat ur testimony even wen u r gone wld bring smone to christ. Live everyday for christ cos He is coming soon…

    1. Hmmm…very well said Tito, why work for the temporal, when being busy about the eternal can get you more. And again, i’m so sorry about your dad.

  3. More grace from the most high be bestowed on you bro,,this life of your wnt bcome an history for you,sky is jst the beginning in Jesus name,amen

  4. Wow,dis is the best post I’ve eva read….oh wow,indeed life is worth than having ambitions or grt aspirations….God bless LiveGiva

  5. Wow..So touching nd inspiring. 9c 1 Tolu

  6. well said!
    well done Tolu

  7. We all need to know and understand, that we don’t know When our end may come.. Live prepared. Wonderful piece Tolu. May the lost rest in peace. AMEN

  8. Wow! Just read episodes 1-3. Great work I must say. God bless you sir. It so happens that I met the only sister of a deceased secondary school friend and classmate (for the first time since his demise) today. He died around Valentine’s day of 2012. Its always a sad thing when people who had so much promise die with so much undone. Like Apostle Paul said, if our hope is on earth alone, we are of all men most miserable (paraphrased). This hope is what makes Christianity beautiful. Its a reminder for us all to live every day like its our last, because like you said; tomorrow is not promised to anybody. God help us all

  9. Thank you. You left me with a tear drop at the right corner of my right eye. There is nothing more refreshing than a slap in the face that brings you back to the reality of things and this post is that slap that I needed. Thanks bruv.

  10. Just got me thinking…..fleshly desires battles over spiritual supremacy….just live for God

  11. i wish to write about the death of a loved one too..

  12. It’s really very terrible cant b explained appropriately until its felt forehand, it makes one revisit n realign priorities its very sad bt as always God knows best.

  13. Tolu, what an inspiring and thought provoking write-up,am not surprised either, Your brother, Ope was a great’man’ who inspired and made so much impart in the lives of people around him. I admired his personality so much and was indeed saddened by his untimely demise . we have to take solace in the fact that he lived a good life worthy of emulation . Sped International Secondary school class of 2005 made a fundraising in his honor to keep his memories alive. The endowment will honour the best student in T. D and Further Maths every year. This will encourage generations coming to emulate him. Am Sorry to have informed you late. Please let’s keep in touch.

  14. This blog haa been a source of blessing to me. This story really touched me, I also lost a very dear one.what people say after our demise matters,but I think what really counts is where we all will spend eternity, regardless what happens to us here on earth.

  15. God bless u tolu….and I am sorry about ur broda and ur friends. Much respect

  16. I couldn’t have read this at a better time than now, I saw the post on monday but I couldn’t read it till today, cos I lost a friend. This life is not all there is, let us live for God. Thanks Mr Tolu!

  17. God bless you Tolu…

    1. Amen!

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  19. Life is short but living for eternal purpose and at the same time impacting lives while on earth makes it more beautiful/fulfilling.God’s grace is more than suufficient. Really sorry about your brother and friends.

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