Having sex in the dream is never seen as normal, at least, not in this part of the world (Nigeria). As much as I am not superstitious, I believe that there is a point it gets to, where having sex in the dream shouldn’t be seen as ordinary.
Depending on your part of the world, or the religious sect you belong to, one or more of the following, would probably be the reason for having sexual experiences in your sleep.
1. Sexual Related activity during the course of your day
The reason you most likely had sex in your dream is because in the course of that day; you had sex, watched porn, read sexually related content, masturbated or had other sexual related activity or contact in the course of your day.
Oftentimes, our dreams merely reflect what is on our minds. What we have seen or heard. We hardly dream about something we are completely oblivious of.Oftentimes, our dreams merely reflect what is on our minds. What we have seen or heard. We hardly dream about something we are completely oblivious of. Click To Tweet
The ordeals of my sexual dreams started after an erotic novel I joined my classmates to read, the magazine was so graphic and so were my dreams.
So it’s just very logical to conclude that if you saw a sex-related movie, or had a sex-related discussion, you will have a sex-related dream.
And it follows Paul’s admonition to the church in Galatia;
“I say then, walk by the Spirit and you will not carry out the desire of the flesh. For the flesh desires what is against the Spirit, and the Spirit desires what is against the flesh; these are opposed to each other so that you don’t do what you want.” – Galatians 5:16-17 HCSB
The solution is pretty simple; cut away from sex, nude, provocative materials (movies, magazines, pornography, sexual discussions…)they are not healthy for your soul. Asides the fact that they paint a wrong image of God’s beautiful creation of sex and the opposite sex, and asides the fact that they tend to produce a pseudo satisfaction, they have the power to draw your heart to sin.Do you want to stop dreaming about sex all the time? Cut away from every sex, nude, provocative materials, movies, magazines, pornography, sexual discussions…they are not healthy for your mind and soul. Click To Tweet
- Wet Dream
Wet Dreams/Sex Dreams/Sleep Orgasms is another reason. A medical/physiological reason you might have sex or sexual experience in a dream.
Wet dreams, called nocturnal emission according to Wikipedia is a spontaneous orgasm during sleep that includes ejaculation for a male, or vaginal wetness or an orgasm (or both) for a female.
This is something that starts during puberty but very unlike ladies menstrual cycle, it has no regular pattern or frequency and might not happen to everybody.
But let me put it up front, not all sexual experiences in the dream are wet dreams, and not all wet dreams involve you dreaming about sex. So many people have reported not having sexually related dreams or not remembering what they dreamed about but woke up to see that they had ejaculated.
I am saying this because some religious folks have ‘spiritualized’ this very normal body activity into something demonic.
But it is important to know when it becomes abnormal.
For instance, you don’t have wet dreams every day back to back. A report from research shows that people have wet dreams from once in three weeks to once in 2 months depending on their ages, marital status and frequency of sexual activities. Like some say that people who masturbate or are sexually active have fewer wet dreams.
So, if you have wet dream/sex dreams a lot, then it is most likely not a wet dream but could be the point one above, because people who watch porn before bed, are more likely to have wet dreams.
3. Demonic Activities
I know this is the part some people are waiting for.
- A Christian cannot be possessed by a demon
The bible says that the body of a born again believer is the temple of the Holy Spirit who lives in him, so saying a believer can be possessed by a demon is saying that the Holy Spirit and a demon can both live/be in a believer.
The bible is quite clear, that when you become a new man, you received the Holy Spirit and a new heart. Christ rescued us from the dominion of darkness and brought us into the kingdom of the Son he loves – Col 1:13.
- A Christan can be oppressed by demons
The devil and his agents won’t just pack, leave and never return just because you are saved or because they were evicted from their house. Jesus in Matt 12, said when an impure spirit comes off of a person, he goes about and if he doesn’t find another place, it returns to where it was cast out. This is why spiritual growth and the need to stay fervent is very important.
Yes, you cannot be possessed by a demon spirit, but if you are caught sleeping (spiritually), by lack of prayer and the word of God in you, you will fall a victim to the oppression of the devil.
Let me bring this home;I had my bouts with sexual activity in the dream. But that was the time I fed my mind with ungodly and immoral things, coupled with lack of seriousness in my Christian walk. Click To Tweet
I had my bouts with sexual activity in the dream. But that was the time I fed my mind with ungodly and immoral things, coupled with lack of seriousness in my Christian walk. It got so bad at some point and I thought I will need deliverance. But a mentor back then, told me to read my bible, read the Epistles and the gospels to see who I am as a new man in Christ. What I have and the implications of Christ’s death and resurrection for me. He advised I spent quality time every day talking and having fellowship with God. Singing songs of worship, praying in tongues and talking to God like a father and a friend. That was exactly what I did and barely 3 months into it, all the constant temptations, addictions and sexual activities in the dream were gone.
There is a popular saying in this part of the world that flies don’t perch on hot eba/stove, the very same thing goes for all occurrences that aren’t consistent with our new nature, be it sex in the dream, oppression of the devil in the form of sickness and the likes.There is a popular saying in this part of the world that flies don't perch on hot eba/stove, the same thing goes for all occurrences that aren't consistent with our new nature, be it sex in the dream, oppression of the devil in the… Click To Tweet
Get rid of those videos, magazines and novels, separate yourself from those friends whose communication corrupt your mind. Know who you are in Christ, take authority, stand firm in prayer and the word, and you will work in victory.