I’m sure you know Ray Boltz. He is the composer of the popular Christian songs “Thank you for giving to the Lord” and “The Anchor Holds”. – The first song was a song about a dream. In the dream, a boy went to heaven and saw different things, including his Sunday school teacher who led him to Christ.
In September 14, 2008, Ray Boltz came out for the first time to the public and declared his status as gay.  That was not so much a concern for me, but some other statements he made. He said, “I’d denied it ever since I was a kid.  I became a Christian and I thought that was the way to deal with this and I prayed hard and tried for 30-something years and then at the end, I realised ‘I’m still gay. I know I am.’ And I just got to the point where I couldn’t take it anymore — when I was going through all this darkness, I thought, ‘Just end this.’
Now, I bet the whole frustration of being a Christian and not having not found help or healing as he expected gave rise to the statement I want us to focus on for today’s discussion.  Here it comes below.
This is what it really comes down to,” he says. “If this is the way God made me, then this is the way I’m going to live. It’s not like God made me this way and he’ll send me to hell if I am who he created me to be — I really feel closer to God because I no longer hate myself.
And I’m like, REALLY? Trust me; I didn’t know what to think, knowing what would have taken a man of his status in the Christian circle to have come to this point. I felt weak, more of the reason I’m putting it up as a discussion. But to put a little perspective on the discussion, I put up this issue with a friend Joe_Deep. Here was his perspective of the issue which I find true.
Joe_Deep tagged Ray’s conclusion as “The ‘feeling’ of grace“. He said, “You know these days, people no longer know the difference between a seared conscience and a grace-conscious heart because everything (including spiritual) is judged by feelings. So Ray Boltz ‘feels he’s closer to God because he no longer hates himself… And the rhema behind it is *drum rolls* “God made me this way.”That statement is a popular one amongst Christian homo-sexuals…
They arrive at the conclusion based on feelings-  “We tried to change and we couldn’t, this must be because God made us this way and so no matter how hard we try, we can’t change.
So what do you think? Did God make him that way? Did God make some people homosexual, some bisexual and others straight?
I bet this same conclusion has been drawn by people that have struggled with some other addictions.  Having  fought with seemingly no way out, they  just give up fighting, resting in the comfort and concluding on the point-  “maybe this is  just who I am”, “ I was made like this. Why fight or judge myself?  Why not embrace it and enjoy my life?
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Success Within International holds her 2nd Year Anniversary Conference. 26th July 2014, @Sweet Sensations Hall 3, Opebi, Ikeja, Lagos. 12PM

Success Within International holds her 2nd Year Anniversary Conference. 26th July 2014, @Sweet Sensations Hall 3, Opebi, Ikeja, Lagos. 12PM

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Tolulope Oludapo is a young Christian who lends his voice through the media by sharing practical wisdom for everyday living in the most experiential and simplified fashion. This has fetched him the direct followership of over 30,000 users on his blog, lifegiva.com. A blog he founded. He loves to write on varying subjects that affect life, faith, relationship...everyday living.
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