He or she likes you, but you don’t like them, at least not enough to go into a relationship with him/her. Please, how do you tell the person without hurting their feelings or you let friendship?
We shared this on our Instagram page here, and got these comments and responses.
Kindly read through, and let’s have your own thought as a comment. What would you do if you’re in this shoe? Have you been in this position before? How did you go about it?
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It’s not you…… It’s me
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@ndakarafavour then say a word(or 2) of prayer afterwards😌 @ndakarakevwe
I think their feelings will be eventually . But saying it in a polite way will make them accept it easier and faster. “You’re an amazing person, and I’m glad to know you. Thank you for such kind admiration 😂 but I’m sorry it can’t be matched by mine.”
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He/she may most likely already know…saying it may now be perceived as you’re intentionally trying to hurt their feelings.. maintaining your friendship limits and boundaries is key because if you’re acting like you’re already in relationship with him/her, he/she will keep believing that you’ll turn around some day.
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Be polite about it, not puffed up or conceited. We dont have as much control over hurting another persons feelings as we think. More often than not, our feelings are hurt based on unresolved insecurities not so much the rejection. Except ofcourse it is done in an embarrasing or demeaning manner.
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I am honored that you have such feelings towards me. However, I don’t want to lead you on or waste your time as I am not interested in getting to know you on a relationship level.
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Thank you for letting me know how you feel about me but I am afraid I am unable to reciprocate the feeling. (If you still want to be friends with the person you can add – I hope this doesn’t impact our friendship because I think you’re a great friend).
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Honestly there’s no way it won’t hurt them…it’s better to just be clear than lead them on (cos whether it’s now or later their feelings will still get hurt)
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For someone I like: I am so sorry I might hurt you but I don’t think I am ready for that right now and it won’t be just, to toil with your feelings unnecessarily. Apologies….
For somebody I don’t like, or that has been a pest to me: I am not interested bro! No hard feelings at all….
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Hmmph! It hurt no matter what. So I say it with as much grace I can muster.
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“Sorry but I really don’t feel the same way”, this is simple enough….the tone matters more. Say it kindly, with respect and don’t embarrass the person
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Hey, so urm I’ve been getting the vibes that you like me. I’m really thankful that you do. I also appreciate you as a person but I sincerely don’t like you at the level that you do me. I hope you don’t misunderstand me. Cheers (then you exit the room I guess😁)
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Well I legit don’t like you, woko e lo siwaju 😊
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For me, the softness in my voice while saying this really matters and it goes a long way. So erhmm… I’d say something like…I know how you feel about me and I sincerely do not take that for granted but if I’ll be honest with you, I do not feel the same way and I’m sorry if I hurt your feelings.
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LOOOOL how for do na?
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I don’t think there is a right way, because regardless it will still hurt. The only thing is that, be respectful about it and choose your word carefully.
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Wait like or love?? Let’s be clear in order not to hurt people
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😂😂 there is no right way really , Just try not to be mean about it that’s all
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You are like a brother to me😎
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Erm I don’t like you 🤗
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I don’t like you and I don’t want to hurt you.🤷♂️
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@danielotabor and you think that won’t hurt the person? You gotta show more empathy and concern for their feelings. Don’t just sweep it under the rug or try to invalidate it.
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@m_e.d.d.y 😂😂Calm down. That was sarcasm.
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@danielotabor hard to believe cause it doesn’t sound that way.
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@danielotabor 😂😂😂😂 I would say this too
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@princess_warrior07 let’s not stress and stretch it too much.😂😂😂
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@danielotabor honestly! This is the best way. No too much English or sentiments.
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No matter how nice you tell someone about not liking them the person is going to feel hurt regardless, but putting your words right would go a long way and it would show you respect the person, say something like I don’t mean to hurt your feelings but the feeling isn’t mutual and if y’all are friends you can mention one or two things that you like about the person as a friend
How would you have said it? How would you like someone you like but doesn’t like you in return to let you know. Kindly leave a comment.
You can find some answers here – Handling Rejection as a Christian Single
You’ll find this also interesting. DISCUSSION: How To Friend Zone Effectively
I’ll say: “I appreciate how you feel about me. It’s not my intention to hurt you but I don’t feel the same way about you. I hope this doesn’t affect our friendship ‘cos you’re a really nice person”
Omo, all this one na plenty talk sha.
The truth is, no one likes rejection and the person is going to be hurt. However, we can mitigate the hurt by being respectful. The tone and choice of word matters.