For Valentine Special’s Love Talk, there is this issue I’ve been getting too often in the last 3 weeks, from people from different part of the world, UK, Nigeria, Canada and beyond and I’m sure you have one close enough to you. It affects both the dude and the babe regardless of their level of commitment; relationship, courtship or marriage. And it goes thus;
“I love my boyfriend (girlfriend, wife or husband), I really do. He is what I want, all I want. He is not perfect though, and doesn’t have all I would have loved, but we are happy together and I know he loves me truly. But I also have this other guy I admire so much, I kind of like him and he really likes me too. I know that I am supposed to be committed to my boyfriend, but I cannot seem to help it because he is always there, and I see the tendency of being able to get some things I would have loved to get from my relationship but I have not gotten yet. For whatever reason, such as a little distance between me and my boo”.
I am yet to sleep with him yet though we’ve had a thing or two, of which I felt guilty of, I know I shouldn’t be doing this, I love my boyfriend. Please what do I do? Most people tell me to enjoy it while it last, since it’s just a fling. Am I cheating on my boyfriend? HELP!!! I really need your sincere opinion.
Please, I really want to hear from you on this issue, what do you think, when do you say a person is cheating on their partner? Or I should just “enjoying it while it last”? I don’t want to hurt God either or miss His best for my life.
It’s a discussion, let me hear your opinion on this.
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Thank you for reading. I’m really looking forward to seeing a comment from you.
Try 2 replicate DAT quality u c in d oda guy
Don’t be fooled, if you think (and are sure) that this new guy is better off than your boyfriend (of which, they often are not!, we just love longing after what we don’t have), there is nothing wrong with breaking up with a guy you don’t feel ‘fully satisfied’ with. Go after what/who soothes you best (But that’s after a lot of introspection).
That being said, know this, if you take the above-stated advice without shrewdness, you will end up breaking up several times and hurting yourself over and over. Love, as far as I know, is tightly hinged on COMMITMENT and a successful relationship rests on SATISFACTION and SACRIFICE!
You decide what to do, after having engaged in deep introspection and prayer!
As all issues of the heart,you Have to be careful, love is about being content, when u stop being content with your partner and start being drawn to someone else you are no longer walking in love. The solution is to revert to love, go back to what love really is, cheating isn’t in sleeping with someone else alone it also involves letting someone else share the emotions that are exclusive to your partner and you
one thing common abt these new guys is dat dey always luk soo real wif their outward appearance or soo gud wif how dey behav to u bt d truth is u’ll get to know wu dey really are wen u bcom soo intimate wif dem, i wud really like u to watch Tyler Perry’s confession of the marriage counsellor, it would help u to undrstnd mor, moreso, if u’re convinced dat d guy u’re wif is actually urs, u shudnt b concerned abt d oda guy, besides, wah i hear u say is dat ”he somehow meets ur needs n u admire him, not like u ar really in luv wif him bt u fink u ar, it’s beta u get it ryt n knw dat dos kinda guys ar mostly fake and @ d end of d day, u’ll be d one to regret eva leavin d first guy for dem.
It is important to note that there will always be someone out there better than your boo…ALWAYS. It is now up to you to control yourself oo. If you keep leaving to follow greener pastures then you will NEVER really settle because there will always be a better one somewhere around the corner