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Image by © Kristy-Anne Glubish/Design Pics/Corbis

A time comes when you need to stop waiting for the man you want to become and start being the man you want to be” ~ Bruce Springsteen”

Hello friends, I welcome you to another session of IGNITE SERIES. That time has come when you need to stop waiting for the man you want to become and start being the man you want to be.

Last week, I started with the first segment of the qualities of a responsible man; he positions himself for opportunities and he makes quality decisions.

Fela Durotoye rightly put that the future is not a time zone but everything that we can be but have not yet become; The future is everything that we can do but have not yet done. There is so much we are capable of doing and most people have not realized.

Let’s go further with the qualities.

Qualities of a responsible man

3. He is a man of purpose

Anyone without purpose is not fit to live. The discovery of purpose is the first step to destiny fulfilment. It would be a great misery for anyone to do effectively well what he or she is not meant to do at all. The future is a place set aside only for those who are ready.

I want you to know that there can’t be any future without a present. And the present is your discovered future.

There is one thing in this world, which you must never forget to do; Human beings come into this world to do a particular work. That work is the purpose, and each is specific to the person. If you forget everything else and not this there is nothing to worry about. If you remember everything else and forget your true work, then you will have done nothing in your life. Your gifts and talents are pointer to what you ought to do. On a man who has fully cultivated the required seed deserves an expected harvest.

4. He is a man of vision.

Vision looks inwards and becomes duty. Vision looks outwards and becomes aspiration. Vision looks upwards and becomes faith” – Stephen wise.

After discovering your purpose, an analysis of the overall picture is broken down into stages which are called vision. Vision is simply the glimpse of purpose. A “vision-less” man is a “future-less” man. I can simply measure any man by the kind of vision he has.

A student with a vision of all round success in his academic pursuit has shown that he is walking into the future. The future is set for only great visioners. Vision is different from ambition. Most people take one for the other. A responsible man is a vision oriented man

5. A responsible man is committed.

Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. [James 1:4]”

All successful people are committed individuals. Commitment is one of the values that can enable one to walk into the future. The future is prepared for those who can endure several hurdles. How persistent are you when things are not going as planned? All great achievements require time.

6. A responsible man is a Lifelong learner

It is the capacity to develop and improve their skills that distinguishes leaders from followers.” – Warren Bennis and Bert Nanus

The illiterate of the future are not those who cannot read or write, but those who cannot learn, unlearn, and relearn. Many youths of nowadays are always looking forward to holidays or to the time after graduation, when they never have to learn again!

But is that really true? Graduation ceremonies, after all, are formally called “commencement.” And commencement means beginning. I believe that’s accurate. When we graduate, we need to look at it as a beginning. After formal education ends, we begin an education in life. What we do with the learning opportunities that we encounter will determine our success and progress for years to come. We need to be lifelong learners. Things are changing every single day. The solutions of yesterday no longer solves todays problems. Hence, anyone that wants to see the future must be updated and current.

Over the years, I’ve concluded that lifelong learning doesn’t just happen. We can’t just “expect” to learn. We need to “intend” to. That means taking action. If you haven’t come up with a plan for learning and personal growth, now is the time. Daniel was so gifted in skills and learning but still he subjected himself to lifelong learning. (Daniel 9:2).

I see you becoming a responsible man or woman. To be continued next week….

From your coach

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Tolulope Oludapo is a young Christian who lends his voice through the media by sharing practical wisdom for everyday living in the most experiential and simplified fashion. This has fetched him the direct followership of over 30,000 users on his blog, A blog he founded. He loves to write on varying subjects that affect life, faith, relationship...everyday living.
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