Life is In Stages, but you know that already.

In my short life 😉, I have learned that life is in stages/phases/seasons… Do you know what I mean? Time to enter school, project defense and final year. Time to get a boyfriend, get a job, travel abroad…

But one significant thing about these stages and seasons is that we get so blinded by what we need, what we are aiming for, the not so good situation, it becomes so hard to not worry.

A typical example would be when I was in school, I felt so stressed about school work, making good grades, getting a hostel I liked and every other kind of school problem you could come up with.

Then, I honestly felt that being in school at the time was my problem alas!

When Jesus said  ‘I have told you all this so that you will have peace of heart and mind. Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows; but cheer up, for I have overcome the world.’ John 16:33 (TLB)

Yours truly was not ready or maybe I just did not think that it was that deep 😁😁😁, but guys it’s that deep.

I passed that stage and I was genuinely grateful, well maybe because my heart felt like my stage at the time was my problem. Ideally, now that I am done, my worry should be over right?

Hmmmmm it got worse, I started to worry not only about the place or the things I wanted that I could not get. I worried about the people I cared about too, I worried about myself… The list goes on.

Soon I could not sleep, I could not eat right, hanging out with friends (which is one of my hobbies😉) became a bore. I will nag, get upset about everything then be upset with myself for getting angry. Kai, it was a whole mess and I needed help.

Then God started to pull my ears on gratitude, in church something will be said about giving thanks, I will watch a movie and someone will mention gratitude. These words began to ring in my heavy heart.

I decided to pay attention (now there was a long time in all of this process ooo) but I learned to count my blessings and be patient in my process.

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Let’s do a quick run through the things I learnt and I am still learning;

– Always be joyful in the Lord!

Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! – Philippians 4:4

You have a responsibility to yourself to be joy-full. Gratitude helps; when you take small steps intentionally acknowledge.

Pay attention to small victories and make conscious efforts to acknowledge and give yourself a pat on the back. For me I like to have a personal dance-off 💁💁💁or I would go see a movie or just hang out with friends.

Find what works for you but learn to keep your joy tank always full.

– It’s okay to not be in control sometimes.

You learn to trust God and people when you can accept help. If you need help ask, not everyone would be able to help but help is sure to come when you ask.

Things will happen, people would be people and life would get out of your control because it’s life and it’s totally OKAY. 

Thank God for the HolySpirit we do not live life hopelessly and without help. So when things seem out of hand you can pray in the spirit and remember you’re never alone.

– Life is in stages

Flexibility is key. If/When things change, readjust, as far as you are in line with God’s instructions per-time. See, you wouldn’t always be where you are now, things would not always be as they are now. 

Enjoy this stage and try to live the best of each moment soon today would become yesterday.

Truth is I have not gained mastery of all the above but I can’t stop doing them and you can’t too. 

Grow in your journey, wear Patience and Courage like clothing. 

You will be just fine, You will See!

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