Oh yes, we all get horny, with exception of none and No it’s not sinful, We are spirit beings living in a body with sexual needs.
To be on the same page, God gave us Sex as a physical expression of intimacy within the walls of marriage. But as an unmarried person, you will desire sexual intimacy (although the degree is dependent on the individual), if you are confused about taming your sexual desires as a single person Here are 7 out of the 13 tips Ifeoma Nkem-Gbemudu prescribed in Chapter 5 her book Can I Be Married Already, a chapter she titled ‘Holy and Horny’.
God gave us Sex as a physical expression of intimacy within the walls of marriage. Click To Tweet1. Admit the fact that you’re a creature of intimacy
You are not your body, You’re a spirit, with a soul, who is living in a body. Every part of you desires Intimacy and sex is only a small way of meeting your desires for physical intimacy.
Don’t be ashamed of your sexual desires although you shouldn’t dwell them incessantly or allow them to control you. God gives only good gifts and He gave you these desires for a purpose.
Don’t be ashamed of your sexual desires although you shouldn’t dwell them incessantly or allow them to control you. Click To Tweet2. Get an accountability partner
Having a more mature believer who you can trust to counsel you and check up on you regularly to encourage and keep you committed.
Make sure it’s someone whose spiritual example you admire and with whom you can be completely honest with about your struggle.
Have a mature believer who you can trust to counsel you and check up on you regularly to encourage and keep you committed in your purity walk. Click To Tweet3. Guard your heart by guarding your eyes and ears
Everything you see and hear influence what you think about, what you think determines what you believe and what you believe determines what you say and do.
Hence when you feed your mind with heavy sexual contents (movies, shows, books, conversions, etc) your sexual craving would build up till the urge to satisfy it is feels overwhelming.
Everything you see and hear influence what you think about, what you think determines what you believe and what you believe determines what you say and do. Click To Tweet4. Don’t remain friends with people who undermine your values in this area
Bad company corrupts good manners (1 Corinthians 15:33) it is unwise to spend time with people who don’t share your values because in spending time with them you needlessly expose ourselves to the same temptation repeatably. If you are unsure on how to end the relationship pray about it and seek godly counsel.
5. Set standards and boundaries in your romantic relationship
Physical involvement is progressive; one act leads to the next until you go all the way. Honour the Lord and your partner with your bodies by setting boundaries in your physical contacts.
Physical involvement is progressive; one act leads to the next until you go all the way. Click To Tweet6. Pray
Earnestly talk to God about your concerns and difficulties. Seek guidance and fully expect to hear Him instruct you as to what to do.
Praying in the spirit helps strengthen your spirit, remember to keeps the word of God in view because it helps you pray effectively.
7. Meditate on God’s word
God gave His word to enable us to share in His divine nature, escape the corruption in this world and equip us for the good work He created us to accomplish.
However, the word will do you no good if you don’t take time to ponder on it, pray about it and ask the Holy Spirit to teach you. Therefore it’s important to plant God’s words on your heart by meditating on it and constantly Decale to yourself who you are in Christ.
Here are a few tips to help ease your sexual desires for much more check out CAN I BE MARRIED ALREADY by Ifeoma Nkem-Gbemudu.
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Remember that you are not alone in your struggle so even when you fall recognize and accept the forgiveness of Christ then continue in your faith work.
Read also: Managing My Sexuality As An Unmarried Christian
How To Handle Sexual Temptation – Pastor Emmanuel Iren
Cheers!
