Wedding Tradition: Who Weds Who?


Have you ever wondered where most wedding traditions originate from? Let’s talk about the choice of costume. Why must the lady wear a white gown? Why not green or red? Who wrote the wedding vow? Why should rings get involved? Why have white weddings on Saturdays? There are so many questions that you probably never thought of. But in today’s post, we’ll discuss one of such.


(Which is the correct order and why?)

In sharing a post concerning friend’s wedding on my BBM personal message, I typed “Laju weds Emmanuel“, I received a ping immediately correcting me that the order was wrong. The person said it was meant to be “Emmanuel weds Laju“.

Note: Emmanuel is the groom and Laju is the bride.

Although I was initially convinced of the order, primarily because that was what I was used to seeing on wedding invitation cards and souvenirs, I changed it to “Emmanuel weds Laju” and trust how your BBM contacts can be, I received pings telling me I was wrong again.

I decided to take a poll and got people’s opinions along with their different reasons. Let me share a few.

Opsii: It should be “Emmanuel weds Laju“.

“And a man shall his father’s house and cleave unto his wife”. The man is the one who is searching. Man weds his bride. The man is the head, he should come 1st.

Tolu: I think it goes both ways, there is no particular order.

Stephen: It is Emmanuel weds Laju, Na the man they marry the Bae. I’m correct, who dey marry who?

Cece: Laju weds Emmanuel, She’s d one that said yes to him wasn’t she ? D lady agreed to marry d guy. So she’s marrying d guy, not d other way round. Laju is marrying Emma. Which wedding IV have u ever seen d guy’s name first?

After receiving varying opinions, I decided to do my research. Although most opinions went with “Bride weds Groom”, there was no reason for this apart from individual opinions- a major one being because the bride’s family are the host of the wedding ceremony. These people believe the bride’s family are the ones inviting everybody; therefore the bride’s name should come first.

Is there a definite rule to this tradition? Or do you have a reasonable reason why the order generally used (Bride weds Groom) should be maintained or changed? Do share as a comment to this post.

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  1. I agree with people who said the bride’s family hosts the wedding.the traditional wedding is usually in the bride’s house, the church wedding is usually in the bride’s father’s church, under normal circumstances, the bride’s family pays for most things in the wedding, and the bride chooses the color and deco. It’s basically focusing on the bride, no wedding without a groom, but honestly, it’s about the bride. So, yes, it’s bride weds groom.

  2. Hmmm,v always had ds talk wv my mum too anytime I cme across an IV which obviously states d bride’s name 1st nd she always say it’s mnt to b d guy’s name 1st then one day she brought out her own IV nd it stated my dad’s name 1st… reading thru ur write up ,it jst occurred to me dat wen a guy wants to propose, he says *will u marry me?* …. so wu marries wu then…..

  3. Another one of those traditions or things that people do that doesn’t really matter.
    It helps guests at the wedding who are not familiar with the couple tho so that they don’t call the husband the wife’s name and vice versa especially when their names are both unisex.


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