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Why Am I Constantly Making Bad Choices? – #AskLifegiva

Choices.

Hmmm.

An amazing privilege of human beings. God gave us the power to choose. God, in His sovereignty was secure enough to give us a free will. In fact the outcomes of lives is a sum total of choices whether good or bad.

The choices we make can either contribute to the success or failure of any endeavour. So, we don’t want to make bad Choices right?

While choices to make can differ based on the subject in view, there are some general rules to making bad choices. You may be making bad choices in life because:

1. You are desperate.

Remember Esau? Jeez! Guys no matter the subject, you are more likely to make bad choices when desperate. Especially when they are life-impacting decisions. Well, except being desperate for Jesus. He’s the essence of life. If you make every other good choice but don’t choose him, you have missed it. Back to desperation, you are more likely to choose the wrong business or life partner when desperate. Try been clear and level headed, okay?

You are more likely to make bad choices when desperate. Especially when they are life-impacting decisions. Click To Tweet

2. You are impatient.

Related to desperation. Take your time. No need to rush into things. You may rush out the same way. So you may need to take some more time thinking through.

No need to rush into things. Take some time thinking through the choice you are about to make. Consider your options carefully. Click To Tweet

3. You take too much time.

Taking too much time is a bad choice in itself and this may largely be because of fear. Taking too much time may make you rationalize a good step/decision. You just talk yourself out of it. And when you finally realize, the desperation to make a choice (anything is better than nothing, right?) can lead to choosing rubbish. So, strike while the iron is still hot. Get the balance between being too fast and too slow. Don’t fret, God’s spirit and wise counsel will save you. This takes me to my next point.

the desperation to make a choice (anything is better than nothing, right?) can lead to choosing rubbish. Get the balance between being too fast and too slow. Click To Tweet

4. You don’t seek counsel.

Yep. You don’t. See ehn, bad experiences don’t have to be your best teacher. There are people who have gone ahead of you, why take the longer,  painful route, and do it on your own? You may not recover quickly from that bad experience o. Stand on the shoulders of giants, you will even save time and distress.

Stand on the shoulders of giants, seek counsel, you will even save time and distress. Click To Tweet

5. You don’t pray about it.

A huge part of seeking counsel. While man’s wisdom is good, God is all-knowing. Praying can save you from making the wrong choice even when the greatest human wisdom tilts towards that choice. Prayer also does more in you than for you. It helps you align towards the right thing. You get clarity in your spirit on what steps to make. God cares about the things that concern you, dears.

While man's wisdom is good, God is all-knowing. Praying can save you from making the wrong choice even when the greatest human wisdom tilts towards that choice. Prayer helps you align towards the right thing. Click To Tweet

6. You are scared.

Fear helps you make bad choices. It can even limit you. Be strong and courageous.

Fear helps you make bad choices. Click To Tweet

7. You follow your feelings.

Guys have you noticed that feelings don’t have intellect? They are not exactly smart. And my, don’t they always change? They can help indicate somethings but you can’t rely solely on them. Don’t. Seriously, please don’t.

8.You don’t research enough.

Knowledge can help you choose better. You may need to read more about that particular thing. It’s good to know what you are getting into.

9. You don’t learn.

Like, learn from your past mistakes. Learn from other’s mistakes. Be open. Stop repeating the same mistake (and expecting a different result).

Learn from your past mistakes. Learn from other's mistakes. Stop repeating the same mistake. Click To Tweet

10. Chill bro (and babe, lol).

It may not be a bad choice. You know good meat takes time to marinate? You may not see the leaves spring forth immediately. But it doesn’t mean nothing is underneath. You may be like the palm tree. So, chill out.

Thank you for reading! If you have any other thing to add, please do so with a comment. Would love to read it!

Also related – Your Spot-On Guide To Making Life Decisions

Your Spot-On Guide To Making Life Decisions

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