Guys get in here.
I have a question: Does love, emotion, or romance only count if they’re spontaneous, rather than planned?
Guys, is it bad if your girlfriend or boyfriend has to put reminders to help remind him/her to call you or send a text during the day. Intentionality should come from the heart right? So if you have to call me because your alarm reminded you that I exist somewhere, of course, it is no longer romance, right?
Romance, love, genuine feelings should all proceed from the feelings of the moment, not from cool calculation when looking at a calendar–shouldn’t they?
Romance, love, genuine feelings should all proceed from the feelings of the moment, not from a reminder, or a scheduled calendar–shouldn’t they? Click To TweetOn the flip side, some have argued that planning their romantic gestures, or even relationship obligations like calling, checking up on their loved ones is a means to train themselves into cultivating the habit.
Planning romantic gestures, or even relationship obligations like calling, checking up on their loved ones can be a means to train oneself into cultivating the habit. Click To TweetScience has it that it requires a minimum of about 21 days for an old mental image to dissolve and a new one to jell. You know the more we do things, even if it’s by a list or with reminders, the more natural those things become. Wouldn’t you rather have him set a reminder to buy you flowers than rely on being spontaneous and forget?
Let’s hear your position on this in the comment section.
I believe the love that exists out of either spontaneity or intentionality remains the same, if one does it from the heart; and if he does it because he loves the other person in question.
In my opinion, it’s not a sponataneity decision, because not all people were raised that way, nor is it about being intentional. It’s more of a heart thing. If you truly love someone from your heart, you’ll do whatever it takes to maintain communication with that person.
Love they say is a beautiful thing. There is no one size fits all when it comes to relationship. If a reminder is done to plan romantic gesture or if it is spontaneous… Do what works for you. Me Flowers mean nothing so don’t bother.