Personally, I think I’ve reached my limit on the issue of ‘love’.
In order to make this post; the first post in my memoir memorable 😉 , I started writing about the characteristics of love according to 1 Corinthians 13. Just at the first one “love is patient“, I broke down. I don’t know why but I guess in the course of writing, I’ll figure out why.
This post is for all of us who think we have reached our limit; a motivation and advice. This limit could be about anything. Probably in our romantic relationships or relationships with our parents or friends, or our studies, (Whatever area I didn’t mention here, please write about it in the comment section).
Personally, I think I’ve reached my limit on the issue of ‘love’. When I was younger, I used to daydream about the perfect relationship. I dreamt about playing by the beach, kissing under the tree, what the proposal will be like, our fights and how we would make up because we really loved each other… I was just in love with the idea of being in love. Daydreaming about love was my favourite pastime. I was ready to give my heart to someone who would love me like I was the only person in the world.
My first relationship was a disaster. I just blamed it on the excuse that we were both young but every single one after that ended up in the drain like the first and I think the issue was patience. Our present generation has very low tolerance for ‘rubbish’. I’ll talk on the issue of patience in a later post. After my last relationship and heartbreak, I just locked up. I just felt like my fantasies about love would never see the light of day.
One day, I was discussing this issue with Tolu and I was telling him I was done with love and he told me something funny. He said ‘Love broke your heart; it will take love and God of course to heal it’.
Honestly, it didn’t make any sense to me at all at the time (covers face). He said some other things like ‘Open up to God and tell him how you really feel’. That really really really works. Talk to God like you would talk to your best friend ignoring the fact that you may not get an immediate response or a physical hug or words of encouragement but try it. It helps.
Another area is in my relationship with my parents. Recently, I had a very heated argument with one of my parents and at the end of the day I felt really bad. There is no perfect parent on this earth. Although this parent of mine said some pretty hurtful things to me, I had to understand why the Bible said ‘Honour you father and your mother’. He knew we were going to have annoying parents that will push us to the extreme, like the RUN student that was pushed to killing his father. Yet, He said ‘honour your father and mother’. God didn’t add that part of the Bible for fun. (Funny how everything boils down to patience)
In closing, if you think you’ve reached your limit, talk to God. If you don’t know how to, pretend you’re talking to yourself and ask Him to listen. Speak genuinely. You may need to let go and move on but still, talk to God. If you don’t get results, then….
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Let us know what area of your life where you think you’ve reached your limit in the comment boxes.
love is one word all has tried to define yet no full comprehension cos its beyond wat education or the genius mind can handle…cos i beleive..hmnn *(just dropped) it contain the root of life…selah(GOD is love)….
Aaarrrgghhh! Love. If it doesn’t hurt, maybe we weren’t just loving hard enough.
Well said Bro
Wow. I thought I was alone in this. Very inspiring post. And the part about our low tolerance for ‘rubbish’ is very true. I wish everyone could just understand this.
Very true, but how is love love if we bail out in the sight of the smallest “rubbish”, some aren’t not intended to hurt us, knowing fully well that not everyone is perfect, including urself.
Very nice article.Just what my pastor spoke on “The Disaster called Impatience”.But in the same vein we should be wise on knowing when to be patient and when to move relating to relationships especially. 😀
“Talk to God like he’s your best friend’. True word!! It works and it also heightens your awareness of His ‘ever abiding’ presence.
Like a lady that professes undying love despite being continuously beaten or cheated on by her partner. I pray that God will give us vision and wisdom in this light.
Even though have been forced to read this post by my good friend, this got me thinking….. Noting is perfect ✌️
Hehe…thank you for obliging, i’m sure you were not disappointed. I hope you stop by more often 😉
Very nice post. Knowing about Love and how simply complex it can be would be of great help to all relationships that need love running as it’s OS. And how other apps like patience, understanding, communication and the likes are necessary for smooth running of any relationship.
My questions are, what exactly characterises or are examples of the ugly occurrences in relationships between couple(s)? What is the cause and how can they prepare or conquer them? Practical examples if any.
The range of ugly occurrences in relationship is wide and varies with different relationships, relationships are as different as persons, and there are no two same people. U’ll neva say ds are d kinda challenges i’ll face, u’ll neva knw until u get in one.
But I believe there some characteristics and attitudes that can help handle them as they come;
Patience; Sometimes u just av to keep still or keep mute, take trash, nt be quick to judge or respond.
Sincerity, be sincere with what u feel, don’t fake in d name of trying to please d person.
Then communication: a lot of times, ur partner will nt knw wt u want or mean or…if u nt say or express it, dey re nt spirits, dey can’t read our mind.
The list is endless, but to give instances of ugly occurrences, just imagine 2 people with totally different exposure or upbringing coming together, they’ll av a lot of compromising, learning an un-learning to do to make the relationship work
hmmmmmm. *now sharing on facebook*
Its funny that the lesson i ended up taking from this post isn’t even about love or its patience. once i read this line – ” I started writing about the characteristics of love according to 1 Corinthians 13. Just at the first one “love is patient“, I broke down.” – somewhere in heart i was just like “*sigh* Lord, Help me to always be vulnerable to your word which is ultimately true”. I pray God’s word (even the simplest “love is patient” line) would break us down and get us transformed. amen. Lovely post yeah. *thumbs_up**