If you are one of those people who tremble when you hear married folks make statements like “Marriage is work!” or “Every marriage will go through its seasons of tests and trials”, here’s another wake up call for you.
Marriage has tests and trials…
This is not to scare you or anything like that; the truth is you have to be prepared for marriage. Many romantic comedies might have painted marriage or love relationships as a walk in the park or an eternity in paradise but it is not always so. At least, not all of the time.
In a recent post on Instagram, Mrs. Black shared how she once experienced some unwelcome complexities and struggles in her marriage. At the time, nine days after she put to bed, her husband lost his job. According to her, this incident paved the way to an “11 month road of severe testing and fire.”
Without much ado, here are lessons to learn from her about the test and trials in marriage:
"Marriage is not the place to fight for your rights." – Mrs. Black of @shreddergang Click To Tweet1. A man (or a woman for that matter) needs to make wise decisions in his marriage to prevent further damage.
In Mrs. Black and her husband’s case, their finances were affected by the loss of the job so they had to cut back on expenses to salvage their financial situation. The husband spearheaded this decision even when the wife was not particularly open to it. It helped them in the long run.
2. As a wife, there are times you might disagree with your husband’s decision.
Rather than fight him, choose to believe in him and submit to his authority as to Christ. Because submission is a misconstrued concept in our day, you might want to read her exact words here before jumping to conclusions.
Marriage should be built on God, not societal standards. Click To Tweet3. It’s easier to submit to one’s spouse when one is submitted to God
Also, it’s easier to submit to one’s spouse when one is submitted to God. In this same vein, it is easier to submit to a spouse that is submitted to God.
You might have to read that again.
4. Have the right sense of vision, purpose and perspective for Marriage
Having the right sense of vision, purpose and perspective will help you weather the stormy seasons in your marriage. This will help you work towards having each other to rely on rather than fighting. In her words, “marriage is not the place to fight for your rights.”
5. Build your marriage/home on the rock
Many people hope for the storm not to come, instead of building their house on the rock. The storm will definitely come, but if your marriage/home will stand, then the principles you are building them upon must be sturdy – the word of God.
Many romantic comedies might have painted marriage or love relationships as a walk in the park or an eternity in paradise but it is not always so. Click To Tweet6. It doesn’t matter who brings home the bacon, spouses should support one another regardless. In her case, her husband helped out with the day to day needs of her business.
7. In the midst of trials, God is present and is working to make sure things turn out for our good. After all the tests and trials, her husband got a better job and their marriage remained intact.
These are some of the lessons learned and to wrap it up,
It’s easy to see how she and her husband approached their challenges with the right mindset. They were a team and did whatever it took to make things work. Another thing is, their marriage is built on God and not societal standards or expectations.
Many people hope for the storm not to come, instead of building their house on the rock. The storm will definitely come, but what will determine if your marriage will stand are the principles you are building them upon. Click To Tweet
If you enjoyed reading this, then you might want to read the original post here.
You can also read: Is Love Enough to Keep a Relationship Or Marriage? (Real Responses) or How Financially Stable Should A Man Be Before Marriage?
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This is soo good and very enlightening.
Thanks for sharing.
You’re welcome!