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The Christian and Same-Sex Attraction

With the rise of different sexual orientations, the LGBTQI community, gender and identity confusion, no one should need an exegesis on how this century has become more sexual than any before it.

We see that in the beginning God created the world with His words and He made Adam (which really means mankind) after Himself (God) Genesis 1:27 NIV So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.

Just like any other design, I expect that you agree that a designer is the best person to tell you how and what his design is for, reason God is the one who we believe when it comes to deciding right or wrong.

You agree that a designer is the best person to tell you how and what his design is for, reason God is the one who we believe when it comes to deciding right or wrong when it comes to sex and sexuality. Click To Tweet

He created them Male and Female, this pattern is seen across even animals and one thing that is worthy of note all through scriptures is everything God does is international and points to a greater picture. Sexual relationship is designed to be within the confines of marriage which symbolizes the union between God and the church. Ephesians 5:23 KJV For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. We see that there is a design, a space and a confine for sexual expressions- In marriage with the opposite sex as God ordained it. 

How do we know this; every time marriage was referenced in the bible it was spoken to be between a man and his wife, who is always a woman.

1 Corinthians 7:2 But because of immoralities, each man is to have his own wife, and each woman is to have her own husband. 

Mark 10:6-8 KJV But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh.

You see, marriage and sexual pleasure is not just part of the package, it has a purpose, it points to God and what His purpose is about. It’s much more than the good feeling, it’s much more that the physical satisfaction it gives. 

We see that there is a design and a confine for sexual expressions- In marriage with the opposite sex. How do we know this? Every time marriage was referenced in the bible it was spoken to be between a man and his wife, a woman. Click To Tweet

See how Paul talks about it in 1 Corinthians 6:9-10  KJV 9 Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men 10 nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.

This was not a pointer to identity but to gender. For example a  lion will roar because it is a Lion even if a Goat roars you would not call the Goat a Lion because it is a Goat… Do you get it?

So how did we get here? Same sex attraction or desire to any of the things that God has called unholy (lying,gossip,cheating,lust etc) is as a result of the death that Adam’s (Mankind) disobedience introduced to the heart of all of us so the same way one may be tempted to be arrogant, lie, gossip, lust after things and people same way same sex attraction exist as a present stuggle in another.

Homosexuality is possible because sin has entered the world. Sin is an anomaly to God’s original design. Murder is possible because of sin. Extra-marital affairs are possible because of sin. Hatred is possible because of sin. Sexual attraction to animals is possible because of sin. Paedophilia is possible because of sin. But you would not (I hope so) go around stealing or murdering people just because you feel like it. Do you get the drill?

Sin is an anomaly to God’s original design. Click To Tweet

To the one who has believed in what Jesus did for us and has His spirit but still struggles with same-sex attraction or desires for the things that God will have us stay away from, Rejoice! Because we are not hopeless. 1 Corinthians 6:11  KJV …And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. Same-sex temptation does not require a different kind of Holy Spirit than lying or gossiping. 

What Jesus did in His death and resurrection then giving us the Holy Spirit was a complete work. We have the greatest hope in that we are not fighting alone Hebrews 4:15 For we do not have a high priest who is unable to empathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are–yet he did not sin. 

Like you read earlier, A roaring Goat is not a Lion. You are not your temptation! Do not tie your identity to your attractions or passions; they are too fickle to define you; a Man in Christ. Everyone struggles with some sort of distorted desires, passions and appetites for things outside of God but we are not defined by them. God has called us justified so we live from there. Sometimes it would mean putting the scriptures about yourself where you can see it every time, other times it would mean asking God for help when your desires are raging but keep leaning into the help God has provided. Hebrews 9 :14 KJV How much more shall the blood of Christ, who through the eternal Spirit offered himself without spot to God, purge your conscience from dead works to serve the living God?

Do not tie your identity to your attractions or passions; they are too fickle to define you; a Man in Christ. Everyone struggles with some sort of distorted desires, passions and appetites for things outside of God but we are not… Click To Tweet

Your identity is in Christ, not in heterosexuality, homosexuality or any gender. Your creator is who defines you, not your feelings, man or society. You are his child, loved by Him. Though once His enemy, you are now friends. You are God’s residential address. Isn’t that powerful? The core of your identity is in Him and Him alone. Galatians 4:6 NLT And because we are his children, God has sent the Spirit of his Son into our hearts, prompting us to call out, “Abba, Father.”

Your identity is in Christ, not in heterosexuality, homosexuality or any gender. Your creator is who defines you, not your feelings, man or society. You are his child, loved by Him. Click To Tweet

You can rest, God loves you. Not only that, he doesn’t want you to live in fear or seek the truth in fear. He wants to bring you to clarity, in love. He sees you and wants to bring you into better understanding while resting in His full love embrace. Isaiah 26:3 KJV Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee. 

The proof of salvation is not in a heterosexual relationship or attraction (lust is still lust, regardless of gender). The proof, rather, is your regenerated spirit. God’s spirit resides in you. You have experienced the miracle of changed desires by the spirit regardless of if you feel like it or not. God’s design for romantic relationships is a heterosexual marriage or singleness (as Paul was). Either of both is fine.

The proof of salvation is not in a heterosexual relationship or attraction. The proof, rather, is your regenerated spirit. God’s spirit resides in you. Click To Tweet

Now to you the body of Christ that does not struggle with same-sex attraction, we all are a body. We are responsible to love one another. Your temptation or struggle may look different but they are all a result of the death that reigns in our flesh. Treat each other with love, care and give others the grace to grow just like Christ has given us all. Homosexuality specifically as a term did not exist prior to 1868 so it’s not enough to define a whole person much more the one who has believed what Christ has done in and for them.

Now to you the body of Christ that does not struggle with same sex attraction. We are responsible to love one another. Treat each other with love, care and give others the grace to grow just like Christ has given us all. Click To Tweet

Our trusting God is not just a scheme to escape hell but to see/believe (even if it means labouring to believe) that He is good and better than everything that He has made. So sister/brother if you would need to say No! Everyday to your temptation say it with all your chest at least we have a hope that one day when Christ comes in Glory every battle will be worth it. 

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