A couple of days back, I was asked what I wanted, actually in the exact phrase my boss asked me, “What is it that you want in marriage, so bad?”
I didn’t think too much I replied “friendship”, then I went on to talk about some other stuff I probably cannot remember right now but since then it had been on my mind.
I thought about it so hard, if that was what I was truly looking for and why that came to mind. It didn’t take me so long to agree with me on “the spur” reply. I analyzed how easily people get on my nerves and how I can get tired of them as well, I can’t say I have the best people and relationship management skill, which I am working on but even in my imperfect skill, I realized that a particular set of people know how to make a comeback to my life regardless of whatever might have taken us apart.
This category of people know how to handle all my crap, they know when to come down on me hard enough to get me out of my mess and when to walk away from my stupidity.
Chill! Before you conclude, it’s not just about how they get me, I don’t consider myself to be that selfish. It goes both ways, sometimes I can’t imagine the level of trash I take from these people, the extent I would go to for them and for someone who gets tired of people at a snap, I am yet to be “fagged out” on them to let them go. No one is perfect so we have been swallowing each other’s nonsense since 1968… and till 4015, we will still be downing it.
How much do I love them? Very much, and do I hate them? Almost all the time, has this ever cause us to want to go our separate ways? Absolutely.
I like to see it as an agreement or contract which we “engraved” our signatures upon our heart, so we don’t want it broken.
This category of people can only be my family and my friends, for my family, you might want to say it’s because they are my family, but really it’s not that, I have learnt and experienced true friendship in family, it’s not about the blood we share, it’s the bond that has been built over time.
These are just a few reasons words will allow me express and explain why I chose friendship as my reply as to what I want in marriage.
Maybe someday I actually will grow up searching for something else but till then, this is it.
What about you? What are you ultimately looking for in marriage?
“Looks may fade,
Love might even die or just feel like it’s not there anymore,
What bond do you share with this person that will make you stay?
Not just to stay but to enjoy the rest of your days with this person till death do you apart…?”