Love is sweet. Having someone to call boo is fantastic. Taking cute pictures to oppress single people is the icing on the cake. But what if your relationship isn’t pleasing Christ? Are there ways to know your relationship is not pleasing to Christ? What are the signs? Does the Bible give insight into this? What’s considered as a red flag in a christian relationship?
In this article, I share 4 ways to know your relationship is not pleasing to Christ:
Love is sweet. Having someone to call boo is fantastic. Taking cute pictures to oppress single people is the icing on the cake. But what if your relationship isn't pleasing Christ? Share on X1.Your partner isn’t a believer
As a believer, Christ is the centre of your life. And to fulfil your purpose, you have to date and marry someone who also has Christ as the centre of their life.
You may be thinking, “my love will change him/her” or “The Lord will use our dating to get him/her saved.” Well done o, the Lord’s lover. If the love of Christ couldn’t change them, if the message of the Gospel couldn’t convince them of the love of God, then your love won’t change them.
2. The relationship lacks purpose
In her book “Dating Intelligently”, Pastor Laju Iren noted, “A purposeful relationship is one entered into with marriage in mind, but with the sole purpose of spurring each other to love, good works and Christ centeredness.”
As a believer, Christ is the centre of your life. And to fulfil your purpose, you have to date and marry someone who also has Christ as the centre of their life. Share on XIn other news, as a believer, the purpose of our relationship is different from what the world’s. It is not just about status or having someone to say sweet words to. There’s more to dating as a Christian than that.
3. You are having sex with your partner
Siri, play that dangerous song for me. Lol
God created sex, but He made it for the context of marriage. Until you tie the knot with your partner, no matter how long you have been dating, you aren’t married till you are married.
Our bodies are the temples of God. Therefore, we ought to glorify God with our bodies, and abstinence until marriage is one way. If you and your partner have “mistakenly’ had sex once and both of you are intentional about being abstinent till marriage, then employ gutsy guilt (as Pastor Iren will say) and reset those boundaries.
4. One or both of you are in a relationship with someone else
“Marriage is not an appointment you can keep when you already have outstanding commitments.” – Pastor Laju Iren
Suppose your partner is committed to another person and claims to love you. It is a pointer that such a person has commitment issues, and God does not want that you. God wants your partner to commit to you fully just like He did when He sent His only begotten Son to die for you.
"Marriage is not an appointment you can keep when you already have outstanding commitments." – Pastor Laju Iren Share on XI’m sure there are other ways to know your relationship is not pleasing to Christ. Have you been in a similar situation before? Let us know in the comments.
Would you like to read “5 Women You Should Not Marry” or “5 Men You Should Not Marry“?
Written by Durojaiye Oluwatamilore
It’s the quotes from pastor Lajus books! See gems
Lovely read.
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God’s love doesn’t love like that.
Succinct.
“.. we are transformed by the fresh newness of the Word of God in how we think, so that we can know His good, acceptable and perfect will.”