The first day of February made it three months I have been married to my favourite person in the world, Pst Emmanuel Iren. I’d like to share 31 lessons from my time of being a wife.
There’s more I’ve learned and there so much more to learn, but for now, take these!
1. My husband is great at everything a husband needs to be great at. I’m thankful it’s him.
2. If you need help from your partner ask for it. If you’ll keep assuming he’d read your mind…na OYO for you.
3. When people tell you that sex is worth waiting for, they aren’t trying to deceive you. It’s worth the wait.
4. Have fun. Forever is too long a time to be grumpy with each other.
5. Be open to corrections.
6. Don’t let others determine your family planning. That’s between you and your hubby.
7. Be nice to the neighbours, it makes your life easier.
8. Be content with what you have. Make the best use of your resources and time so that even people that have more can emulate you.
9. Never compare your husband with others, let him always be the best, the sexiest, the most intelligent and the most everything…in your eyes.
10. Don’t expose his faults to others, especially close family and friends. Cover for him.
11. For every success, it is no longer ‘me’ but ‘us’.
12. Pray together. Never forget God who brought you together in the first place.
13. Your husband will many times need somebody to talk you, let that somebody be you.
14. Some men out there don’t care about the ring on your finger, they might chase you shamelessly. Lead them to your husband.
15. Cook well. Let there always be food in your house.
16. Treat visitors nicely. And especially if you’re a newly wed, be sure that they give enough notice and you can check the time with your spouse.
17. Be thankful for wedding presents.
18. Don’t spend all the spraying money on the honey moon. Give and save.
19. Help, Help. Help the man. And don’t make it obvious to the world how much you’re helping.
20. Dress for your husband. Look neat and attractive.
21. Air your grievances. If there is something you feel he needs to work on, tell him kindly. Take note of the time, place and manner.
22. Don’t let your standards of being a wife be derived from movies or music videos, watch what the word says.
23. Encourage your husband to be better and do better not just by talking but by taking sincere steps to support him.
24. Talk about everything. It keeps the friendship alive.
25. Most of what happens in a marriage should not be shared with the world.
26. Respect. A man ain’t gonna hear any love language if it ain’t got respect in it.
27. Seek to understand.
28. Adjust.
29. Work hard to make sure that you can manage God’s assignment on your life, your work, school, ministry and your marriage. It’s hard work, but it’s possible.
30. Keep your home clean.
31. Treat inlaws like you would your own family…after all, they are!
Which of the lessons struck you? Do you also have one or two other lessons to add? Leave it as a comment.
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I’m sorry but all the lessons struck me 😀 #archiving
Lol @ no. 14
Well, all I gotta say is the future wife has gotta see this and never ever forget number 14 (LOOL)!
Wonderful…all lessons are insightful…bless God for you marriage…cheers…
Really insightful.
I’m pretty certain I’m going to share this with everyone I know that wants to get married. I believe that the standard is the word of God only. Experience has kept on showing that. Thanks Laju and lifegiva2.com
a direct and simple breakdown of what Paul talked about marriage when he used Christ has the head of the church to explain
Lesson well learnt,tolu thanks
The lessons were nice. But what if he keeps complaining that u nag whenever you air your grievances, what will u do at such situation?
Number 26. A man will not hear nothing you say if he as much as sense an atom of disrespect in your tone or undertone. In other words….patience is the key. I learnt it from an ex, there was barely any misunderstanding I ‘won’ by shouting lol. Wait I must till he has eaten and rested….then I speak gently and explicitly stating my grievance. The apology will flow from his heart! Men are sometimes really like babies and need to be pampered to get the best behaviour. Lol silence speaks louder. Suprise him once and try the gentle approach. It woks like magic. We ladies assume too much, sometimes they have no idea what is eating you up. To them thinking on how to meet your financial needs are more important….lol
wonderful words…..is realli insightful…..GOD BLESS UR HOME..
Interesting article but rather naive. Been married myself a good few years, this article should be more a tip list than lessons learnt.There are no lessons learnt just yet, you both are still in the honeymoon phase.
Yes oo,tips indeed, no lessons yet, let her relax for lessons to be learnt as d marriage is just getting started.lols.married as well but for a few years tho.
Come on, you don’t have to have been married for so long to learn lessons, someone married for a day has more experience and thus has more lessons than someone that has never been married, the title of the post said “Lessons from my 31 months of marriage”, not “all the lessons that is in marriage”.
It we surely worth reading
Worth reading
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